Posted by: Kristen Beireis, Trust Marketing Expert

exitkeyCoaches are extremely passionate people.  It’s the training, the life change that comes along with the choice to be a coach, and that passion for helping others is why coaches usually get into the business in the first place.  Most coaches I know love all humans and believe everyone should be happy with themselves and their lives.  I’ve heard coaches say they believe deep down everyone knows they are worthy.  I know most coaches want the world to be a happy, peaceful place.  It’s what makes them so great at what they do!

The challenge is containing that passion and those beliefs while marketing.  I know, it’s not easy but if you want your potential clients to trust you, you have to remember where they are.  Think back to your innocent days.  The days before you knew coaching existed.  Close your eyes for just a minute and remember what that was like….

Now, what would your reaction have been if someone had sent you some writing that said;  “You are a talented human being who deserves to get everything she wants.”?  Would you have believed that?  I know I wouldn’t have!

I specifically remember an instance in the first month of coaching where my coach blurted “You are so talented.”  Oh boy did I challenge that one!!  It started with “You don’t even know me, how do you know what talents I have?”.  I wasn’t ready to accept that I was talented, lovable, or worthy yet.  I hadn’t explored myself enough to know that I was.  I hadn’t worked with my coach long enough to get there.  (Thankfully, my coach was awesome and in the next few months I changed my thinking on that.)

So, can you imagine what would’ve happened, had I come across a piece of marketing where someone tried to tell me I was lovable?  Um, circular file anyone?! In fact, it’s repelling.  It’s gremlin fodder.  They eat that stuff alive and convince people to run away…FAST!

I bring this topic up because I see it all the time.  I see coaches putting marketing materials out that assume the reader can comprehend an affirmation for themselves.  Now, I’m not saying that EVERY person is going to be revolted by that kind of statement, but you need to think about where your potential client is before they have worked with you.  If your typical client goes through a process with you that brings them to loving themselves, don’t try and convince them to go there now.  They haven’t had the benefit of the process yet.  If they have, then they wouldn’t be an ideal client.  So why speak to them?

There is a difference between flat out saying “You can have anything you want” or “You are alive, therefore you are worthy” and asking someone to imagine what life would be like should they overcome challenges you help them get over.  There is a thin line, but by challenging your potential clients with powerful questions that get them to see possibility, they become attracted to you.  Now that’s marketing!

The next time you want to boost someones self-esteem or help them understand that there’s more than where they are, ask yourself if your statement might feed the gremlin of a past client before they got to you.  If the answer is yes, then rephrase to create possibility.

What kind of questions might you use to create possibility?

Kristen Beireis, Trust Marketing Expert

Kristen Beireis, Trust Marketing Expert



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